Thinking about birth plans

As I get close to my own labor and birth, I realize that for the first time I want to write a birth plan. I haven't before because I had heard naysayers telling of the bad luck ladies with birth plans have. Well now I realize how superstitious that is and how silly as well.

I also feel that I should write one this time since things will be a bit more complicated/interesting. My son has been actively asking to go with us to see his brother born. Neither myself nor my husband initiated these requests, and since he asked so many times we feel this is something that is very important to him. I have begun telling him of some of the logistics of birth to prepare him, but I feel I should also prepare our caregivers for him using the birth plan. Here's what I have so far:

If all is well and healthy, these are my birth preferences:

For Labor:
-Hep Lock
-Clear Fluids for energy and hydration
-Intermittent Monitoring – If continuous is required, prefer wireless transmitter
-Freedom of movement and use of the shower/tub
-Pushing in positions of my choice
-No offering of pain medications – I will ask if desired
-No other labor augmenting medications
-No AROM

For Birth and Immediate Postpartum:
-Vaginal delivery in semi-sitting, side-lying, or hands-and-knees on the bed
-No episiotomy
-Baby on mother’s chest, skin-to-skin
-Allow cord to stop pulsing before cutting
-Delay newborn exam until after first breastfeeding or perform on mother’s chest
-No routine use of pitocin or similar unless hemorrhage evident

For Postpartum:
-No circumcision
-No bottles or pacifiers

Notes:
This is my third birth, and I’m very excited to have my son who is 4 years old wanting to attend. He will have a family friend to watch him and help him while I labor and birth. If at any time there is an issue that you feel should not be discussed in front of him, please let me know. If there is an emergency, please use the code of suggesting they go get donuts so that he will not be exposed to the urgency.

My husband will be my labor partner and has supported me through a natural birth before. We look forward to taking this passage together again. If at any time you feel one of our birth choices has been overcome by events, please let us know.

Disclaimer: These are my preferences, and I would never think they should apply to anyone else unless they chose them. Birth choices are very individual and should be treated as such.

Also, some might think the donut suggestion silly, but it's very important to me to avoid saying anything scary around my son should it occur. He also LOVES donuts and being a rare treat (and with Krispy Kreme right in front of the hospital) it would be an easy distraction to get him out of the room fast. Hopefully, we don't have to use it of course. If I labor at night, I won't be waking him, but I'm so excited about the potential for him to witness the birth of his brother.